I’m not the kind of person that has to be forced to get up to do something every day.
I’m the type of person that needs to be forced to sit the hell down and shut up.
I think the hardest part of “chilling” for me is that…I don’t like to all that much. I feel really unproductive. A lot of my identity is wrapped up in what I’m doing all day.
Which is why I really like this new job. My to do list is never ending and I lose track of time SO easily. It’s a breeze!
But it’s the hardest thing to go home and just turn all of that off. I want to go home and make dinner and workout and then I want to talk about stuff with Nick and I want to get stuff done and I want to pay bills or whatever it is I can.
Thinking about this right now, I don’t think that’s what God wants for me all the time. I think that there is a huge blessing to being able to leave your work at work and then go home and relax.
I struggle a lot with that and I think that is a hard thing for a lot of people. I’m an intense, in the zone, type A person. I feel like tornado sometimes, trying to keep everything in order at home like I do at work.
It’s impossible. At work it’s my own space; but here, I live with someone else – actually two other people! I can’t pretend like they think about things the same way that I do because they don’t – they’re boys, first of all. Second of all I’m a little particular about things.
My husband on the other hand, is not one of those people. He is the type of person that can come home and just completely switch off the energy. I envy that!
So I started to think about ways that I can come home and recharge, have a minute to remind myself this is the place for relaxing, not more projects.
If you’re like me, this is important. Otherwise, you’ll start to treat your family like they’re your coworkers – nobody wants that.
Here are a few things I do/want to try:
- Read a book – I went to the library last week and picked up a C.S. Lewis biography and 12 Years a Slave. I’m stoked, but I need to actually start reading!
- Color – I am not kidding, adult coloring books are bomb and they are proven to be therapeutic
- Watch a quick Netflix show – I don’t want to get lost in an hour long Criminal Minds and completely forget to make dinner, so I find a show I can watch in 20 or 30 minutes like New Girl and get lost in it
- Do yoga or a short workout – my newfound love is Blogilates (Cassey Ho)
- Take a hot shower – haven’t done this yet, but this will probably be my last resort
- Journal, reflect on the day – I like to journal my prayers, but this can also be blogging for me (or you) I’m finding this to be really calming right now actually
- Sit down. Just sit. Slow down and take some deep breaths. If your brain is busy all day, just like Newton says, an object in motion will stay in motion – it’s hard to get those thoughts to slow down. Sometimes, all I need is to light a nice candle and grab a blanket on the couch for 10 or 15 minutes.
Home is where you sit down and shut up.
Let me know if you have any other ideas I could try.
I hope your home is where you find peace. That’s how it should be.